Loving Remindeer:
If you're slightly offended by any stay-at-home-mom/wife (SAHM/SAHW),
maybe (just maybe) you should stop reading this.
*hugs*
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Ah.. and so it's Mother's day yesterday. No special treatment for me but I am happy though since I was tired due to helping my mom to do the EXTRA cooking and cleaning for the guests who stayed at my parents'.
A few guests (three families) stayed at my mom's house to send their daughters to further their studies at matriculation college in Labuan. One family guest (a mom-T and her daughter-C) was unknown to us but they're a friend of my cousin-S and since all the hotel's room in Labuan were fully booked, my mom accepted them in as well.
After dinner, the ladies had a little chat while 'some' still munching some leftovers on the table (ooh.. that would be just me ^^). As usual when the MOMMAs chat, they'll brag share infos about their children (I just sit there.. stuffing myself with the leftovers... oo.. the pucuk timun [local vegetable] was delicious...LOL).
Then this lady, aunty T asked if I were "educated" (wah... what a question..). My mom answered it and the aunty T then asked "Kerja apa? di mana?" [translation- what job do you have? where?]. I proudly answered, "Oh.. Surirumah" [translation- housewife]. She's shocked and reply with a - what a waste, why bother to study then, why spent money to study far away from home.. bla-bla-bla...
Luckily aunty T didn't met the years-back-before-me. I would have burst with angst and gave 1001 reasons.. LOL.
I smiled, listened to all her advices and her telling of how her daughter made thousands of ringgit paid for working in tourism. hehhee... No, I am not exaggerating. It's true and she really said it *smile*.
>>>>>Why did I wasted my tortured, sleepless night going through my academic and ended being a HOUSEWIFE??
Should I be explaining myself to her? Nah... waste my energy^^ and it could turn to a nasty debate (pulling the hair and every thing <-- my imagination ONLY). I did once have high hopes, big dreams... but I guess I was changed through times. I still have dreams and hopes.. but in a different light.
I am enjoying my SAHM moments *giggle*. I am not offended, nor annoyed, but slightly frustrated. What's wrong being a housewife anyway?? And gets to hear this from another SAHM? Deep down I knew she did not meant anything bad (thanks for your concern and good intention anyway, dear aunty T).

Through experiences, I learned that one can't really chooses the path that one wants to. We do decide what to do, plan everything ahead (or maybe sometime just pushed our ways in), but in the end... it's not really within our control. My dad used to tell me when I was still studying,
"even if you're ended being a housewife, be an educated housewife and educate the next generation" (no offend to anyone *i hope*). Guess dad was a good fortune teller afterall (since I really ended as a housewife.. *smile*).
To those working mothers who kept reading this post, I really hope I did not offending you in any ways. You have your rights to do what you want (as I have mine).
To those SAHM/ SAHW like me, proudly say that you're one because you are NOT wasting anything!
but again... maybe its just me ^^
Blessings come from all directions, in different faces, in many ways;
so start counting your blessings and give thanks.
_elcynthia_
Happy Mother's Day!